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When the cape of  dusk slowly settles over the rays of the sunlight,

Like an ever-burning candle, I will be guiding you through the night.

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When the clouds turn dark and threatening,

I will be the majestic rainbow, hopeful, colourful and soothing.

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When, from the vastness of the skies, the raindrops are released,

I will be your umbrella, shielding you until it has all ceased.

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Whenever the leaves gently abandon the unwilling branches in the midst of autumn,

I will be the wild Poinsettias  flower, determined to blossom for you, amidst this chasm.

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When the frost freezes the slippery roads during the cold wintry spell,

I will be the grip soles on your boots, so that all harm upon you will I repel.

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As the snow gently drops from the frozen heavens,

To keep your hands warm, I will be your woolly mittens.

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Though it grows cold and the wind keeps howling in the distance,

I will be the fire in your chimney, comforting you with my presence.

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When winter subtly morphs into spring, feasting us with the sight of blooms,

To awaken your senses, I will be the sweet fragrant Daffodils, spreading my perfumes.

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When the sun stuns the summery skies with its glistening magnificence,

I will be the caressing sunrays, uplifting you with my contagious joyance.

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As eternally unfold the cycles of the seasons and the temperaments of Mother Nature,

Likewise, you will always find me everywhere, watching over you forever….

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Loneliness……

Ever felt that when you’re on your own,
The whole world seems to spin,
Disregarding your emotions and tears?

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You see people smiling, laughing, having a good time,
But you feel left out,
Because your inner self is shattered into millions of pieces
Which seems impossible to come together again.

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You are living an empty existence
On the brink of breaking down.

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Every time you hear the familiar melody,
And smell the all too familiar scent,
Recognising that silhouette from far away,
This turns out to be nothing but illusion.

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The feelings within you threaten to explode
Leaving you to face the storms of emotions
Which threaten to engulf you
To the core of the lonely soul
Which you have now become.

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The tears keep falling
Like dew dripping tenderly from the petals
And turn into a vast ocean leading to nothingness
Because there is nobody around you.

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It is cold, dark and you keep looking around,
Hoping to find a sign, something, somebody.

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Your world has now become an arid desert,
And all you can see is
The stream of your tears getting soaked up in the sand.

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You try to reach out,
Trying to find your destination,
But you are futilely lost,
Because there is no-one around you anymore,
And you are alone.

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Celebrating is good. It’s fun, feisty, and joyous, with lots of food, singing and dancing going on. It is claimed that celebrations bring people as one, all differences forgotten as they stand together as one. Religious celebrations are these moments where we get an opportunity to reflect and mend our ways in order to do good for the betterment of humanity.

However, I’ve had the opportunity to reflect on the hollowness of these religious festivals, once we take pains to uncover the sordid truth beneath the smooth, glossy surface.

What goes on behind the fake contrived smiles, the extravagant intricately-embroidered outfits, the singing and dancing, the matching jewellery, the soft swish sounds of the anklets, the prayers, the smoke of the incense sticks and camphor, the fresh flowers despite a droughty spell and the tropical fruits? The imagery of the devotee, his eyes closed, his palms pressed together in utmost devotion, is a powerful one which has been staged time and again for the sake of reinforcing the power of prayers.

For others, the symbiosis with the Almighty is so powerful that they can’t control the flow of tears due to that momentary connection they feel….

But why am I so increasingly cynical about these public displays of so-called devotion?

The answer is simple really.

Once the festivities are over, most people will go back to their normal behavioural patterns. The wife-beatings, the back-stabbings, the lies, the gossips, the scheming, the corruption, the thefts, the promiscuity, the materialism, the abuse of alcohol and drugs, child neglect, the swear words, the selfishness, the hypocrisy, the arrogance, the jealousy, the greed, the pettiness, the sarcasm will all rise up in unison and throw a thick veil of darkness on the supposed moments that people felt one with the Almighty. They will not hesitate for one single second to cater for their own selfish needs and this leads us back to our slimy, vermin-filled reality of each for his own….The religious pedestal has now sunk into dire waters, with waves of hidden political agendas which have now engulfed true devotion.

No wonder I feel incensed (even more than the thick suffocating smoke of the incense sticks) when I witness these futile acts of devotion, which are just an act, totally devoid of any real feelings whatsoever. It is all part of a deliberate scene in the act of our lives, the need for conformity to put us all in the right spot in the limelight.

I’m sorry. I just can’t buy into this mass religious worship where I hear some people bitching over whose outfits were the most dreadful and cost what, others commenting on the amount that some people ate, over much work was done by whoever, about how much money that somebody has brought, about who has worked the hardest, who has got the best and worst voice etc etc….and the list is far from over. Competition is indeed rife! This is only the tip of the iceberg, but enough to make me realize that nothing has indeed changed during these religious festivities. It seems as though the human evil has been temporarily corked up in a giant champagne bottle which would then pop and fizzle out everywhere, at the end of the celebrations.

No wonder I find it extremely liberating to sit on my own, from time to time, and meditate, cut off from the rest. The cut-throat competition does get a bit daunting but then, how long can one cast pearls in front of swine? Those who have the courage to denounce these practices find themselves ostracized; so common have these practices become. Prayers should be from the heart, not superficial just as a means to show off. Anyway, while awaiting better times with a vision of a real spiritual transformation, I prefer to be on the move and do something worthwhile instead of surrounding myself with empty sacred chants. After all, ‘hands that help are holier than lips that pray!’

(Disclaimer: This is not a generalization.)

Discrimination in any way has always disgusted me, whether it be based on skin colour, sex, age etc… But the one form of discrimination with which I have a personal issue concerns discrimination against the disabled. I agree that there are major improvements nowadays but the mindset of some people is still the same.

Having grown up with a disabled uncle, who has been termed ‘retarded’ by society and rejected by members of his own family, I find it extremely hurtful to imagine what these people who are unique in their own way have to go through on a daily basis. Just because my uncle is different, people tag him as worthless and poke fun at him.

Well, what I have to say is that we don’t choose how we are born and we should live and let live.

Everybody is special and I wish to raise awareness that a disability does not make a person worthless, nor should it be the reason for narrow-minded to stare and pass judgements.

Nowadays, many disabled people are able to lead quite normal lives, have a job and their own family. We should be there to support them lead as independent a life as possible, not turn them down and underestimate them.

We should try to erase these prejudices and understand that we are all different in our own ways and should strive to create a fair, equal and better society for all.

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I’m going to tell you about my dad’s brother who is disabled and is now 62 years old. This might provide an insight about the existence of someone whose physical appearance does not conform to society’s norms and the challenges he has to face.

My dad’s brother is affectionately known as Kiki and is mentally retarded and illiterate, diabetic (he is on insulin injection), deaf and has got twisted legs because he was diagnosed with polio when he was 4 years old. He still does not know my name because of his hearing impairment. Despite everything, he is highly independent, is a good cook, cleverly repairs stuff which my brother and I have broken and we communicate via sign language. Communication has never been a problem in our family, I suppose that’s why I use my hands so much when I talk to other people! So, to me, he is like any normal person and is my uncle and that is all I know.

But things are a different picture when we get out of the threshold. People stare, mock, point fingers at him as soon as he is out there walking. He can be mentally challenging at times, but these people are not making it any easier for him to integrate. A classic: some of his own siblings want nothing to do with him and despite him asking everyday when they are coming to visit him, my parents and I are forced to give him false hope…

But the worst thing is when people actually call him names and encourage their children to do the same. Just because he is different, some people think it is okay to term him as an alien and let me tell you, I got so fed up once that I actually went to some children’s granny and told her the truth she had to hear: that nobody has the right to demean my uncle and that they were not welcome at mine’s unless they mend their ways!

At times, when I look at my uncle sitting on his own, my heart goes out to him in the sense that his conditions have prevented him from fulfilling basic dreams, like having a job and his own family or going out with friends. We might be living in the same house but he is alone, in his own way and we are helpless.

This is the reality of many disabled people: they do feel lonely and cut off from the rest of the world, despite the huge improvements brought about by authorities. This void will always exist but we are the ones who can make a real difference to them. Throw away stereotypes and accept that we are all distinct beings. The time is now, step up and give a helping hand to all for an integrated society.

Raw Betrayal……….

She gently rubbed her stomach, sighed and pulled her shawl over her head, almost obscuring her face….The fine threads from the shawl got into her eyes, and she blinked and resolutely wrapped it around her face tighter, so that only her eyes were sticking out.

Out of the corners of her eyes, a tear started trickling, followed by two, three and many more…With a gasp, she tried to stifle the sobs which were racking up her whole tiny frame. Then, almost instantly, she got in control of herself and closed her eyes, leaning against the backrest of the bench, as she watched the sunset. A light cool breeze was blowing and goose bumps were forming on her arms and legs. She wrapped her arms around herself to keep warm but in the merciless wintry weather showed no sign of clemency.

In the background, a couple was fooling around, taking photos and laughing. Then, they decided that it was getting late and after sharing a kiss, they jumped into their car and drove off, oblivious to the existence of the young girl, who was seated on the bench, cutting a lonely downcast figure.

She sighed once again and finally gave way to all the tears in her body. She was free to cry as much as her body would allow her to. Nobody was there to cast a judgement on her, as she sat on that bench, wrapped in her dirty shawl, worn-out sandals and a simple cotton dress which was so old that it was discoloured. The picture of that carefree couple, so in love, had been too much for her and how she cried. She looked at the skies, feeling the raw pain slashing her heart, again and again and again….the pain of rejection, of being misunderstood, of being betrayed……

The sun finally completed its descent into the ground, plunging the world into darkness and letting the stars slowly come out, twinkling merrily at what lay beneath them…She looked at the twinkling stars and thought about the course of her life….She thought about his warm hands caressing her body, his lips on hers and his warmth inside her during those endless nights of passion….She heard his voice in her head as she remembered his lips whispering a thousand promises in her impressionable ears, full of hollow promises….She remembered with a sharp spasm about his empty words of love, as he held her close and came into her young body, again and again….

Suddenly, drops of water started falling on her head, then grew stronger, mingling with her tears….She choked and remembered his harsh, cutting words when he told her to get lost. He had banged the door in her face and gone back to his wife, telling her to get rid of it. She felt the cold raindrops gradually drench her thin shawl and remembered the humiliations….the rejection, the feeling of absolute shame as her parents disowned her and cursed her to die the most atrocious death…..They told her that she was impure, unchaste and that death was her only way to attain salvation.

Soon, she was thoroughly drenched, sitting there on that bench, allowing the natural water to mix with the saltiness of her tears…She was trembling, with cold, with grief but no longer with shame.

No, beneath her miseries hid a fiery determination that defied even the distant twinkling stars….Her whole body was shaking and her pale cheeks were flushed. A wry smile formed on her parched lips as she yet again gently rubbed her bulging stomach….a warm feeling of tenderness spread through her body as she spoke to the little soul inside her, comforting it and telling it that she would never ever abandon it….As the rain became heavier, she pulled the shawl from her head and gently placed in on her stomach, rocking slowly back and forth…..In her soft voice, she hummed a lullaby….

The next morning, when the couple came back to look for their camera which they had left behind, it was then that they saw her…..leaning back again the bench, her loose hair blowing in the wind, her eyes closed in peace and her hand on her stomach…..she would never have forsaken it and had kept her word…..till the very end…

A love letter……farewell, sweet love……

When I met you and started to get to know you, you opened up your vulnerability to me. I realized that some were quick to judge and discard you. I realized that despite being surrounded with people, you were on your own, into your own little world. I wanted to get in it and share it with you, open your eyes to the simple wonders of the world and make you smile at last….

We were like two lost souls when we met, but that evening, when we watched the sea, our feet burrowed in the sand, listening to the sound of waves and watching the moon was one of the most fantastic evenings in my life….

I never felt so carefree, so light in my burdened life…..We talked, smiled timidly at each other as you tentatively tried to brush off a strand of hair from my face on our way back…

Then, our encounters became more frequent and passionate and I went to bed with dreams of you. I went to the world of dreams with your name on my lips and your face in my mind….and I woke up with the power of your name which illuminated my whole life…..

Our temporary separations did nothing to dampen my spirits. I kept waiting for you…a little word from you would cheer me up…I needed nothing else…I wanted nothing from you, except lying in your arms, closing me eyes and nestling my head against your shoulders….I still remember our heartbeats as one. I still remember us, lying contentedly together, without the need to say a single word. We both felt it in our hearts….You were so open, so eager, so caring that I never felt it coming.

I wanted to heal you, to be there for you at every turn, to love and cherish you selflessly and to grow old together with you. Nothing but your love would have been more than enough. I wanted to look after you when you are unwell, to reassure you when things go wrong, to hold you close to me to comfort you, to brush away your tears, to be your soul mate, to be there for you for better or for worse….

Your past did not matter to me. I readily embraced you the way you were, despite the disapproval of others who are quick to judge. You were the only one who mattered and I would have fought against all the elements to be with you. Even if we’d have to live on nothing, I’d never have let you down but would have supported you all the way through….I was so proud of you, still am. I would have been proud being with you, despite everything that the whole world would have thought. I’d never have let you down, nor let anyone speak anything against you. You became the centre of my universe…it was all a gradual process which took me by surprise…and there was no going back…

I knew that I had nothing to give you, nothing at all, only my love, which has turned out to be scarce….All my love from the depth of my soul could not make you love me back……..

I’m young, but not stupid. I’m young, but not unfeeling. I’m young, but also human. I’m young, but also breakable.

I’m young, but I also know that maybe I could not love you enough for you to love back, that I’m lacking somewhere….

And this is what hurts the most, because I have no more to give you…..and I’m lost, a poor wandering soul who’s left with nothingness….

You tell me, how do I live without you?

But I also know that love is all about giving, and not expecting anything in return, nor is it imposing…..

I also know that love is about sacrifice, and as I watch you go away, I am forced to swallow my agony and bless you, wishing you a life full of happiness in whatever you do and wherever you go….such is the power of my love….

The eve had been a day of tears, the night was even worse and the morning, a game of hide and seek, as I desperately tried to hide my red, puffy eyes from everyone.

It had not been easy, while I sobbed away at night, muffling my cries with my pillow…..and the day was bound to be even harder…..You see, it was my birthday, a day of celebrations which had been ruined to the last degree and from which I couldn’t wait to dissociate myself…….All day long would be a constant nightmare……..

I woke up, looked at myself in the mirror and the miserable reflection threw me in another sobbing fit….

“Happy birthday….” I whispered quietly to myself……though I knew that my words were laden with lies……I was so unlucky…..so alone…….so fast-forgotten…

I went out, not bothering with breakfast, met a few friends and had to plaster my bleeding heart with a mask……it was all a world of make-believe…….as I forced myself to smile and accept wishes from all….

With tears constantly pouring down my cheeks, I hurry to hide away and wipe them off, unwilling to show to others the rawness that was gnawing from within……..

I cut the cake, open the bottle of champagne and smile around at the guests….however, the truth is that I am dying a thousand deaths inside and each fake smile makes me wince….I pretend to enjoy and secretly tip my plate into the bin….the sight of food made me want to throw up….I am fed up with the artificiality, about celebrating something which simply is just another ongoing façade, a ritualistic materialistic celebration, devoid of any heartfelt feelings….I join in the conversation, pass around the food, but the heart’s not in it…..

It is now bedtime…..I check my phone, my mail inbox, everything…..no messages from you yet…..Have you forgotten or deliberately tried to forget? I now know that you’ve decided to cut me off, that there is no coming back, unless….

What am I expecting? A miracle? Miracles don’t happen, especially to the unlucky souls like myself……

It’s a fool’s paradise…..to suffer in the magma of being rejected, of being unloved, of being unworthy…..while praying with all my soul that maybe a light will appear and lighten up my life and maybe yours too….

Hope and disappointment….together with my tears to keep me warm, I lie alone on my bed…glad that I can finally drop my mask, and reveal my real suffering soul to myself….no more pretense, no more holding back….just the broken soul of a lifetime……

Deja-vu…

The weather was the same; dull, cold and rainy……The journey was the same; long and interminable……….The venue was the same; the impersonal coffee shop….The trepidation of my heart was the same……The last contact was the same; a simple text message, nothing more, nothing less : “We have to talk.”

Those four words held the key to the future, the unknown, the hopes, the joys and the disappointments…….

I could see everything that was coming……I was dreading it but hoping against hope….such is the struggle of human beings…….we have a hunch about what’s going to happen, yet we choose to ignore it to make ourselves feel better temporarily……

A sharp pain suddenly tore through my abdomen, numbing my stomach and my heart, which stiffened…….It was although a cold layer of ice had formed around the warmth of my heart and I struggled to contain the shower of tears which were threatening to flow at any moment…This sudden, sharp pain kept stabbing me, time and again. Sleep, laughter and appetite were things of the past, little luxuries which had been snatched from me…..

I finally arrived, and breathing deeply, I walked as though in a dream…..I was floating….everything else was in the background….people’s conversations were washed away like a distant din……I saw the coffee shop and moved slowly, reminiscing about the last time…….nothing was different, nothing, except for the person standing in front of me, who managed a tight smile and asked me to sit down…..

I ordered a coffee, which I would not drink….and looked across the table……He was shuffling uncomfortably, stubbornly refusing to focus on me……until unable to bear it any longer, I asked, “Tell me.”

The conversation was the same…..punctuated by tears, emotions, disappointments and the constant “I’m sorry.” Like the last time, I wondered where, when, how and why things had gone so wrong. He told me that it was none of my fault, but the fault of circumstances……which I’d learn to memorise so well. I unconsciously re-created the actions of the past; taking out my tissue, wiping the tears, trying to understand and failing miserably….until, looking at his stony face, realized that his mind was already made up…

We had nothing more to say….and saw in front of us, the parting of ways…I turned around and looked at him one more time, gave him one last hug, and kissed him on the cheek…..and forced myself to turn and walk away, my path now blurred with tears…and broken dreams……on my own…..

Those were the feelings, the past and the present intermingling, till I knew not which was which…

It’s the eight time that I’ve caught myself looking at my reflection in the mirror in the space of five minutes , turning, grimacing, peering, sticking my tongue out, holding my breath in and sucking in my stomach, pushing out my breasts, putting my hands on my hips and leaning out. You name it; I’ve been trying all sorts in order to test a theory.

You see, it’s become embarrassing now, so much that I think that the problem lies with me. The theory is that Baw Baw is unable to ever get a decent seat on the bus, on any bus company (I so hate discrimination!), because her bum is simply too big. So, no wonder I kept pouting in front of the mirror and bent myself into yoga-defying movements in order to see for myself how large my fabulous derriere is!

Well, after another torturous fifteen minutes of sartorial endurance, I finally give up and sit on my backside with a loud thud on the settee. Fortunately my generous flesh protects me from the shock, otherwise my bones would have been in the A&E department. At the precise moment I sit down, I start to realize that something was amiss. Then the penny drops! Eureka! I begin to feel as excited as when Archimedes made his fabulous discovery and leapt out of the tub!

Actually, forget my derriere…there’s nothing wrong with it. The real culprits are in fact the hideous, filthy, smelly, sweaty, cramped and impossibly small bus seats which would not be able to accommodate any healthy backside in the world! Unfortunately for me, all the bus seats are either two or three-seater ones. Whether you sit at the window, in the middle or in the aisle makes no difference whatsoever. Each place is plagued by its own set of miseries. When you sit by the window, you get up getting squashed by the other passenger sitting next to you. When you sit in the middle, you are sandwiched between the two passengers.

In cases like this, I always imagine myself as a giant balloon which would suddenly pop under the intensely warm pressure and send the two oppressing passengers into outer space! Many times, some lewd men will spread their legs out as if they are in urgent need of aeration and dig their thighs into mine. It gets worse when two men are seated on the three-seaters and make me sit in the middle. It’s then double the squash game, as I desperately wish that the bus would go faster and that one of them would get off finally. Sadly, this never happens. I’m then forced either to jam my thighs together and developing huge friction blisters in the process or taking part in the thigh game too, as I push the invasive manly thighs away.

If you sit in the aisle, then there is a great probability that half or even three quarters of your rear, back and shoulders will be desperately be hanging in mid-air, while a careless prat will mercilessly bump against your shoulder, or unthread your precious woolly jumper that your grandmother so lovingly knitted for you.

Added to this is that the backrests are no better either. My knees somehow always find themselves wedged against the backrest in front of me and my derriere is squeezed on the cramped seats! My my my! Such is my penance is that by the time I get off the bus, I am thoroughly sore and bruised. So, my derriere is not to be blamed. Rather blame the thrifty bus companies which keep making ridiculously small bus seats, treating us passengers like battery chicken and make enormous profits on our backsides!

So, people, let’s unite and say in a loud clear voice, “Our backsides are here to stay! Make bus seats for real people, not for imaginary stick-thin size zero insects! This nonsense has got to stop, and now!!!”

Haha, we are  bootylicious and proud to be!

A Love Letter….from the Heart to the Soul….

Sometimes, a few words are more than enough to tell the one we love how we feel.  It might be a totally spontaneous thing but a letter is always a meaningful medium to carry our feelings forward and touch the special person’s heart.

Here is a short love letter, simple but effective, to tell that person why he matters so much.  The letter is evergreen and its being handwritten adds that special personal touch to it!

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My dearest love,

Just a few words to let you know how much I appreciate all the efforts you go through for me. A text is too limited for me to share my thoughts with you and when we meet, we talk about so many other things that I tend to forget what to tell you!

We were relatively strangers until nearly a few weeks ago, but I feel I’ve known you a long long time. I was immediately taken in by your warmth, personality, sense of humour and caring nature (and handsome features!!) That was why I thought I could trust you with everything and I was right! It means a lot when somebody is actually making the effort to know me first.

I do feel guilty (selfish and self-centered even) when you’ve got to make the effort to come up to see me because I understand you work long hours and got so many other commitments to attend to, and I truly appreciate what you are doing for me.

The simple facts of sitting down, talking to you, spending time together have lots of value and brighten up my otherwise bleak life. I have a chance to be myself and once again, thank you for helping me to discover who I really am, deep within and freeing some feelings which I never thought myself capable of feeling!

Thank you for loving me the way I am.  Thank you for understanding and accepting me.  Thank you for placing your trust in my hands.  Thank you for standing up by me and facing the storms together.  Thank you for being my protector, my saviour, my benefactor, my well-wisher, my best friend, my lover, my companion, my confidant and showing me the true meaning of love and what it means to be loved.  Thank you for being my other self and completing me.  Thank you for making me feel cherished and cared for.  Thank you for warming me up when it is cold.  Thank you for healing me. Thank you for holding my hands always, and never letting go.  Thank you for making me the woman that I never thought I could possibly be.  A thousand thanks would never be enough for everything you are and have done for me.

And I really do miss you loads…

And whatever happens, you are truly very special!

Take care and God bless always

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Lionel Richie – Stuck On You (with lyrics)